Hark! These tired angels sing…

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Christmas, gratitude, life, touring

‘Is my life today what I pictured a year ago?’

I had thought to write about something entirely different this morning – Christmas caroling, actually – and that built-in WordPress prompt got me thinking…

So, is it?

Sitting here at this table, looking at this laptop?

Looking past the screen at several inches of new snow through which the birds and red squirrels are now digging for their sunflower seed breakfast?

Watching the sunlight come up over the hills behind the house and light up those pines and birches just so?

Sipping the coffee that Shawn just made moments ago?

Listening to a Benny Green/Christian McBride/Gregory Hutchinson live-stream recording from earlier this year?

Feeling joyfully fatigued from another weekend on the road creating and sharing music and memories?

DAMN, this is nice.

But is it what I pictured a year ago?

Honestly, I don’t think I pictured anything too specific a year ago. I knew I was planning to be touring New England with Shawn and Craig with the Charlie Brown Christmas show. What I didn’t know for certain is that we would all have our health, our wits, and our skills intact, that we would shoulder through all the storms, literal and figurative, that we would be here at all to do any of it, and continue to deepen our connection to and love for and trust in one another. There is, of course, never any guarantee of any of that, for any one of us.

But yeah, this current moment, this frame in time, here and now? I’ll take more of this, please and thank you.

And thank you, dear reader! And Merry Christmas, Charlie Brown! And happy holidays to one and all. Whatever you celebrate – if you celebrate – I hope it brings you joy.

The first sizable snow.

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Christmas, snow, solstice, winter

Our show on Saturday night in Framingham was cancelled because of Mother Nature, and though I was sad that our fantastic run of shows this year ended with such a whimper, I was also grateful for an easy, early night. (And we have one more private show tonight, so all is well.)

I was really excited on Sunday morning when I opened the shades and the brilliance of the first significant snowfall came streaming through the windows. It got me thinking about snowshoeing through the silent and tranquil woods just a stone’s throw from our door.

We bundled up and took our regular afternoon walk around the neighborhood, and wow, was it cold – and wow, was it beautiful!

And yes, I am certain at some point I will begin complaining about winter – about the sustained cold temperatures against which we must bundle and layer to the point of being unable to move (like this kid), the hazards it presents while driving, and of course all the dealing with the containment of it on vehicles, in the driveway, and on the footpaths. (Ah hell, who am I kidding on that last point? Shawn and Ryan do most of that maintenance around here anyway, as well as the plows and sand and salt trucks that faithfully do their level best to keep us all safe. And wow, am I grateful for all of that, too.)

For now, I will savor every moment of beauty – including the return of more daylight starting this week, YES! – and wait for the next snowfall to inspire me to get the snowshoes out of the garage.

May your days be merry and bright
And may all your Christmases be white

Christmas time is here.

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Charlie Brown Christmas, Christmas, impermanence, jazz, live music, Vince Guaraldi

This weekend was a whirlwind of being back in the world, performing three shows in three states with Shawn and Craig. Making music with the two of them… ahh, heaven on earth.

We’d been rehearsing for weeks, knocking the rust off. We drove lots of miles. We opened our hearts and leaned into the familiarity of the songs, and took some new chances too, all of which paid off. The audiences were groovin’ in their seats. From above and around everyone’s masks, we could detect eyes and faces crinkled into smiles of joy and gratitude.

Friday’s show was the first, in Bangor, ME. A perfect kickoff! Good turnout, lovely folks, fantastic sound guy (thank you, Torin!). Everyone was so quiet, leaning in, until the end of each song. The applause in that hall was thunderous and joyful every time.

Saturday’s show was in the Northeast Kingdom town of Lyndon, VT, in a congregationalist-church-turned-meeting-house lifted straight off of a postcard. It even started to snow, very softly, as we got into town. Picture perfect. The show brought out another lovely group of folks, one of whom immediately recognized our very non-Christmas encore and talked shop with us after the show about that song and about jazz and piano and Oscar Peterson and New Orleans.

At Sunday’s show – at the community church (and the invitation) of my beloved childhood piano teacher, Helen Davidson – one woman shouted from her seat at the end of the concert, ‘Thanks for the memories!’ to which I quipped, ‘We don’t know that song’ and everyone laughed. Immediately after the show, she made a beeline for me, saying, ‘I really do thank you for the memories – this music meant the world to me as a kid.’ Oh, I wanted to hug this lovely stranger! Instead, I smiled and thanked her.

At every show, at least one person told me that this was their first live music since before COVID.

As the three of us sipped tea together, holed up in our motel room on Saturday night, we talked about the shows, about life, about music… and eventually the conversation came around to the fact that eventually, we will do something, anything, everything, for the last time. And what if this had been our last show? So, we agreed – let’s approach every performance, every song, every lick, as if it’s the last we’ll ever play.

Like I said – heaven on earth with these two.

The last verse from my favorite Christmas song, the one we have been and will be singing all month, sums it up for me in this moment:

Christmas time is here
And we’ll be drawing near
Oh, that we could always see
Such spirit through the year

Why I stopped celebrating Christmas.

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Christmas, family, friends, gift-giving, gifts, holidays, music

Sometime in the month of December 1998, I was standing in a very long, slowly-moving line at Borders in South Portland, ME.   I was clutching a couple of books in my hands — one for my mom and another for my boyfriend Scott — that I intended to give as Christmas gifts.

I’ll never forget how severely depressed I was in that moment.  My father had just died of cancer in November.  My mother was, of course, a wreck, and my job of consoling her was impossible.  And in those days, I was living on my own (mostly) in a rathole of an apartment in Lewiston, working in retail (which meant, in December, working nearly every waking moment of every day), and struggling to pay my bills.

I could barely afford the books I was holding in my hand.  I could barely stand there and endure the holiday music that blared incessantly from the wall-mounted speakers.  I did, however, manage to gaze around me at the dozens of tables of last-minute impulse buys and brightly colored bargain books around which we in line were all snaking our way toward the registers, and I did also manage to notice the looks on the faces of nearly everyone else in that line — unsmiling, unfriendly, exhausted.  “Let’s just get this over with,” we all seemed to be thinking.

And then, I had an idea.  I will get this over with.  I stepped out of my place in line, placed the two books back where I found them, and walked out of the store with an incredible sense of relief.

It was at that moment that I pretty much dropped out of Christmas.

The one thing I wanted — and that my mother wanted — more than anything was to have my father back.   How was a stupid book about cats going to assuage that?

She and I didn’t exchange gifts that year.  It seemed pointless.  It was pointless.

There have been a few exceptions over the last fifteen years — including a gift or two for my mother before her death in 2007 — but very few.

As the old cliche goes, the best things in life aren’t things.  Yes, things are nice.  Some things are even necessary.  But I find the idea of compulsory gift-giving to be a grotesque one.  The giving of gifts should be a joy in and of itself, not a stress-filled obligation.

Many do agree with this sentiment.  Others point to the religious origins of the holiday as a respite.  I am not a religious person, so I find no consolation in these various myths.

But there is music.

For the last four Christmas seasons, I’ve been a part of a tradition of sharing the music of Vince Guaraldi’s Charlie Brown Christmas in a live concert setting.   The message of the original TV special was that of that same exasperation that I felt standing in that long line at Borders all those years ago — commercialism run amok.  I’ve heard many folks say to me that it has made their whole holiday season, that it has brought the true spirit of Christmas back into their lives.  Music has the power — and, indeed, the tendency — to do just that.

So, I won’t be giving any store-bought gifts tomorrow.  Hopefully, I won’t be receiving any either.  The only gift I want — tomorrow and every day — is the loving presence of dear friends and loved ones.  That should be enough for anyone!  It’s certainly more than enough for me.

Saturday Morning Musings – Once more around the sun.

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Christmas, hindsight, holidays, looking back, New Year's, New Year's resolutions

Every year without fail, I have resolved quietly to not make any New Year’s resolutions.  By doing so, of course, I’ve already broken that promise before even getting out of the gate.  I’ve long thought that the marking of the passage of time in this way is a bit banal, at least for me.

I don’t even really observe my birthday anymore.  To put it plainly, my birthday was, for my parents, a pain in the ass, falling as it does just three weeks after Christmas.  For this reason, I would always get everything at one occasion or the other, or just a little bit at each – which brings to mind the musing of an old co-worker of mine, whose own birthday of June 25 was, he declared, the best one to have because it meant “I get a bunch of gifts exactly every six months!”

I even dropped out of traditional Christmas gift giving years ago, not because I don’t enjoying giving gifts – I really do – but I don’t like the idea of a religiously-annexed Pagan celebration being used by a consumerist culture to guilt me into buying things for people.  I think gift-giving should be spontaneous, for the sake of the giving itself, for the joy and the surprise that appears on the recipient’s face when they accept the token of friendship and love.

One ritual I always enjoyed was traipsing around the big drafty house in which I grew up and plugging in the decorative, electric white candles that my mother placed in nearly all of its thirty-two windows every December.  As I did so I would also think, “What a waste of electricity!”

Looking back now, I know why my mother clung to those white candles.  Not to say that she was phony – she wasn’t – but she was deeply concerned about appearances.  While the interior of the house – and her happiness – slowly crumbled, both strangers and neighbors passing by around Christmastime every year could see our beautiful old gray house as she wanted it to be seen – as a beacon on a dark and dangerous corner.  That meant a lot to my mom, and so every year those candles would go up.

If only I could get my hands on my family photos again – there is an image in particular that is tugging at my memory right now.  In that first year that my mother decided to put up those candles, she decided also to take a photo of the house from across the street.  In those days, the hobby photographer without the benefit of his or her own dark room had to bring a completed roll of film to Rite Aid, fill out the correct envelope (35 mm or disc film?  Black and white or color?  Singles or doubles?), drop the package in the bin and wait for days – sometimes over a week – before putting his or her hands on the prints.

What resulted from my mother’s hope for a lovely Christmas card was an image of a house set on fire from within, yellowish flame bursting from each window.

Luckily, my mother laughed off her disappointment at this particular turn and at her clumsiness with the camera.  The photo did end up in the family album as a joke, where it remained for years and was forever a source of amusement and laughter.

Every year, my mother promised that she would quit smoking.  “I promise ye, hen, fir yir birthd’y.”

And every year she broke her promise.

This year, in an odd fit of nostalgia, I bought a string of white lights to hang in our apartment.  No tree, no ornaments, just some soft white lights that have remained plugged in since the day I brought them home from the hardware store.  They bathe the kitchen in a soft light that reminds me very much of that same light that shone in my bedroom windows in Hebron as I drifted off to sleep.

I’ve even thought about honest-to-goodness New Year’s… maybe not resolutions, but I’ve toyed with a few fancies.  I’d like to learn a new instrument – the fiddle maybe?  I have small hands for something like that.  I’d like to read more, like I used to.  I’d also really like to volunteer for an abused women’s project – I’ve already put in an inquiry with a local agency.  “What can I do?” I sincerely asked, being a survivor of domestic abuse myself.

Well, we’ve nearly made it once more around the sun.  What things does the number 2014 have in store?  How will we mark the days?  A new year coming really does feel like a clean slate, doesn’t it?  Let’s resolve to fill it with honesty and beauty.